the patriarchal puppeteer
In many cultures, a patriarchy is an appropriate way to describe society and humanity; whatever the man says goes. A lot of the western cultures mock the eastern cultures for being so open about this lifestyle, but I find it ironic that a culture so in love with the idea of romance mocks another that follows strict traditions. Doesn’t this freedom of emotion give western cultures a chance to emphasize the patriarchal society concept that they so choose to mock? Take for example the dating scene: the man usually asks the woman out, the man usually proposes, and in most cases the man is the one not to return phone calls or even break the relationship altogether. Does the fact that the western world silently gives males an opportunity to take control make patriarchy appropriate?
Women all around the world have made decisions that were influenced by either a man or the idea of a man. The real question is… do men take into consideration women’s feelings when it comes to making a decision?
One of my biggest fears entering my relationship was the fact that one day I could reach a point that I would love my ex more than he loved me. That fear became my downfall when the relationship ended because I, as I had feared, was put in such a situation. My ex did not love me as much as I loved him and that is precisely why ultimately he was never able to stand up for what we had. That is what I am supposed to believe, because that is what logically makes sense. But I can’t get myself to and the reason for that is because of whatever has happened after this breakup.
He still cares about me and I believe that to the fullest. He was the only one there for me when I was drowning in my loneliness. Naturally, I chose to go against all the opinions and the advice and continued to talk to him and gave him a chance to still be a prominent part of my life. So what am I supposed to do when a guy that I respect so much treats me as his puppet?
So when he one day decided to avoid my phone calls so that he “wouldn’t make me feel bad” because he was “too tired to hang out” he is actually trying to say, “I don’t want to see you/ hang out with you tonight.” But every time he wants to see me, I am oh so conveniently available for him and the main reason behind that is because I really do want to see him and hang out with him.
Firstly, would it be so hard to accept my phone calls and tell me to my face that he didn’t want to hang out? If you are going to play the patriarchal game, then play it as a man for heaven’s sake. Secondly, is it the fact that girls tend to be so emotional and soft that they allow for themselves to be the puppets?
Whatever the case is, I cannot allow any man to treat me like his puppet anymore. All I have to say is watch out, because the roles of puppet and puppeteer are about to change.